Letting go doesn’t always start in the mind.
You usually feel it in your body first.
You know something’s off, but you’re not fully conscious of it yet.
Then suddenly — it clicks. You think: “Yes. That’s it.”
And so, you let go.

You’re right — you do let go.
But only in your mind.
You stop thinking about it.

Um… hello? Aren’t we forgetting something?

Yes — your body.

Can it let go too?

Because when you’re in “on”-mode, your entire physiology shifts.
Your blood flow changes direction.
Your digestion, for example, often pauses completely.

So when you mentally let something go, new signals are sent to your body:
It’s safe now. You can relax.

And your body tries to pick up where it left off.

Your digestion restarts.
Your muscles begin to loosen.
And what do you feel?
Exhaustion.
Not because something’s wrong — but because your body is finally letting go.

This can be confusing:
“But I already dealt with this — why do I feel like this again?”

And boom — another warning signal to the amygdala.
The whole cycle starts over.

Before you know it, this becomes your default.
You’re constantly on.
When what you really need is for that signal to pass through the neocortex first —
To pause, process, and then respond.

So let’s take a look at your brain for a moment.

Your heart races at the slightest trigger.
Your breath stays shallow, even when you tell yourself: “It’s okay.”
Why?

Daniel Goleman describes it in Emotional Intelligence:
There are two pathways in your brain when it detects a threat:

  • The fast route — from the senses straight to the amygdala: instant alarm.
  • The slow route — from the senses via the neocortex: evaluate first, then respond.

That fast route evolved for real danger:
A snake. A fire. An attack.

But your system doesn’t distinguish between a fire and a harsh look.
Between a real threat and a trigger.

And the more often you take that shortcut,
the stronger that path becomes —
until one day, you’re always on high alert,
without knowing why.

Before you realize it, stress and fear are embedded in your system.
You move further away from yourself,
even though you think you’re “functioning.”

To break that pattern, you have to dare to feel again.
And face yourself.

Sometimes, it’s one major unresolved event.
But often, it’s dozens of micro-habits —
small reactions, choices, tension patterns
that silently build up into a lifestyle of survival.

Even if your mind understands it…
your body might still be stuck in survival mode.

Because your body registers everything first.
It stores what you weren’t ready to carry.
And it only lets go when it finally feels: now it’s safe.

That moment doesn’t always align with your insights.
Sometimes your mind processed it long ago.
But your gut, your muscles, your heart — they lag behind.
Or rather: they wait patiently
until you finally dare to feel.

And then, all of a sudden…

The fatigue.
The tears.
The shock of what you’ve been holding.
And underneath it: growth.

And imagine…

You haven’t processed anything for 20 years.
Two decades of suppressed signals, standing still inside the storm.

Are you prepared for what your body still carries?

You don’t have to fix it all at once.
You can learn to shift —
from automatic survival to conscious presence.
From reacting to breathing.
From head to body.

Do you recognize this?

Then I invite you to pause.
Truly pause.
With your breath.
With your body.
With what your system is quietly trying to tell you.

You don’t have to do it alone.
But you do have to listen.

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